So truth be told I am not really a birthday kind of girl. First of all I am not that fond of being the center of attention, especially for no other reason than I apparently survived another year. I don’t like parties, not a huge fan of balloons, and have really no sweet tooth so I don’t enjoy desserts. Also there may be some things from back in my childhood that made birthdays a less than stellar experience. For that reason birthday festivities are something I usually let pass by.
This year when my husband asked what I wanted for my birthday I did something different. Usually, I just say nothing and we do nothing or have a quiet dinner, which is fine too. Or I tell him something very specific he drives to get it instead of me. This year as we celebrate 26 years together, my last year in my 40s and our 20th wedding anniversary, I told him what I wanted for my birthday was for him to think of me and do what he thought I would like or enjoy. This should not be a mystery. I mean we have been together a long time and spoiler alert, I am not an enigma. In fact with the exception of Dustin Hoffman’s character in Rainman and a Military drill Sargeant I might be the most regimented person in the world. See my previous blog on discipline.
I think at first he was a little lost, I mean I am pretty regimented; he was prepared to hear from me what he always heard. Flash forward to yesterday, my birthday. He knocked it out of the park. Yesterday morning as he handed me the gifts he had put together he had perfectly woven together a set of gifts that enable and improve my daily morning routine of 4:30 AM run followed by meditation. The gifts don’t really matter and don’t need to be listed. What matters is how perfectly me they were. How they addressed these small things that I have just tossed off in our daily discussions. I don’t harp on them I don’t go on and on. Ladies, here is the swelling music part, he was listening. All of this time he was listening and remembering and thinking about how these small things would change the most pivotal part of my day.
After I opened the gifts, which I loved, and which do all the things I mentioned above. I realized that I got what I was really asking for. I got someone to see me. To really see who I am and what is important to me. I don’t think there can be a better gift than knowing the person you share the most intimate moments of life with really gets you. That made it the most perfect birthday!