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The Vacation Paradox



Sunset over the Jekyll Island Salt Marsh

Sorry I have been MIA for a few weeks.  I was out of town all last week and playing catch up this week.  Last week we started the week in Savannah, where I had a conference.  On Wednesday we headed to my favorite place in Georgia, Jekyll Island. The Island is owned by the state and preserved as a state park so development is limited and natural beauty abounds.  We also stayed at the Jekyll Island Club Hotel, which was built in the 1800’s as the millionaire’s club and became the first location of the Federal Reserve.  Staying there is kind of bucket list experience.  We got a deal and as someone who is focusing more on experiences than material things; we decided to go for it.  We were not disappointed.

I was puzzled by something and mentioned it to my husband when we got home and felt every bit of “vacation fun” in our run and energy level.  Why is it so hard to “fit in” or rather “stick with” the healthy habits that seem to be so effortless at home where we also have all the stress and pressure of jobs, family obligations, house obligations, etc.  In theory vacation is full of time.  Shouldn’t that mean I can meditate longer, exercise, more, seek out the best and healthiest food options?

Well I can clearly answer this for me with a resounding, maybe.  What I mean is yes the time is there, but the motivation that seems to come so naturally at home in my “real” life is lacking in my vacation self.  We ate poorly.  I had not been drinking alcohol except very infrequently but I definitely enjoyed some wine and craft beer, in moderation.  I am proud to say I did meditate everyday, but if I am being perfectly honest  I would say, meditation light.  I did shorter sessions and I often was not as fully there as I would like to be.  As for exercise, this one hubby and I usually get right.  This time a busy conference at the start ate up my time and a hubby’s foot injury at Jekyll put an end to long runs along the beach and bike rides.  Oh, and in an effort to cut meditation time down even my daily yoga practice bit the dust.

So, what did all of this tell me?  A few things actually.  First thing, habits and routine are clearly an important part of my healthy lifestyle.  It is okay to fall off the wagon as long as you don’t lose sight of it completely.  Beware, catching it again after a lazy week of poor habits is going to hurt.  Meditation and the practice of being present and letting go did let me move past the things we hoped to do that became impossible when hubby got injured and appreciate where we were and the opportunity to be lazy together.  In the past I would have focused on the lost plans and failed to appreciate and honor the present with gratitude and an open heart.



Living with Purpose


Last week I finished reading Life on Purpose: How Living for What Matters Most Changes Everything.  This book went along nicely with what I have been working on for the last year.  Really trying to focus on what matters, clear out extraneous stuff, be comfortable with who I am, live mindfully with gratitude.  Though the book is written by a PhD it is written in a very accessible way and it made me think,  What is my purpose?  I definitely think I have 2 distinct areas of my life where I felt I  had a purpose but I don’t think I spent any real-time honing it down so that it was portable.

What do I mean by a portable purpose?  I think I felt connected and had this ambiguous idea of what my purpose was but I could not readily articulate it.  More important than that, I could not carry that purpose with me and pull it out mentally and ask myself does this align with my purpose?  After reading the book I sat down to think about purpose.  I focused on a professional purpose and a personal/relationship based purpose.

Work Purpose: I will make everyone value the essential role of water in their lives.  I know it seems ambitious, right?  That is the point.  A purpose is not a goal.  You aren’t even necessarily supposed to achieve it.  You are supposed to reach for it and act out of this passion, intention, and desire.  I did practice with actively making decisions from this purpose this week.  Though I think in my work life I have sort of already been doing that.

Personal Purpose: I will be present and open to the people, moments, challenges, and opportunities in my life. I am somewhat embarrassed to say it was harder to come up with my personal purpose.  If I was really aligning what was most important it should have been easier to come up with my personal purpose.  One of the reasons I am working on all of these things is to be a better version of myself and be open to learn and open to make mistakes.

Exploring my purpose was well worth the time and the work.  Now I have to do my best to live with these in the front of my mind.  Also the beauty part is you can review and change your purpose as your life changes.  I would say that is essential, since the only constant in the world is change.


Mystery Blogger Award

Lorraine at Minimal Lol nominated me for this award and I am really appreciative.  I love her blog and it inspired me to reexamine my relationship to clothes and how they make me feel.  You should check it out for some inspiration to reevaluate the way you appear to the world and yourself.

Okoto Enigma created this award to recognize brilliant, inspirational and sometimes lesser known blogs.  She called it the Mystery Blogger Award, as a play on the name of her blog ‘Enigma’.  Click here to find out more about it.

Rules of Award:

  1.  Put the award logo/image on your blog
  2. List the rules
  3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog
  4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link to their blog
  5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
  6. Nominate 10-20 people
  7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
  8. Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice, with one weird/funny question!
  9. Share a link to your best post

Lol’s Questions for me

  1. Where are you from? Originally I am from the Northeastern US I moved a lot when I was a kid: Pennsylvania, New Jersey, New Hampshire, Massachuset and then Georgia.  I have lived in Georgia off and on most of my life and consistently for the last 24 years.  I guess I am officially southern by now.
  2. What is the best thing about blogging, for you? I love writing and this is a good way to write about things I care about and kind of just for myself.  It is a benefit if anyone else gets something out of it.  I also work through things and use it to evaluate where I am.
  3. What book/film speaks to you most? This is hard I love reading and I love movies so it is really difficult.  I will kick it old school with To Kill a Mockingbird.  That was the first time i realized that you could change the world by writing about a truth no one wanted to confront.
  4. Where would you most like to visit? My husband and I have so many places we want to visit.  I am going with Italy.  We both love food and Italy is our vision of the perfect foodie adventure.  I can just imagine running along the canals of Venice or a the Piazza’s of Rome. 
  5. Do you have a nickname?!  Okay so I would not say I have one now but growing up my nickname was Spud.  That is not at all embarrassing.

Based on the number of views and comments, I think my best post is the one where I write about something inspired by Minmal Lol, ironically.

3 things about me:

  1.  My full name is Kathleen I am named after my father’s favorite Irish Folk Song Take Me Home Again Kathleen. 
  2. I have 5 cats and for most of my life preferred the company of animals to people.
  3. I was a theatre major who now works in the sciences but I use my training in the field everyday and I still love art and theatre.  Makes me more well-rounded.

My 10 Nominees are:

  1.  Minimalist Princess
  2. Midlands Minimalist
  3. Legally Minimalist
  4. Clawing My Way to Enlightenment
  5. Modern Sustainability
  6. Nancyferriello
  7. Amused and Bemused
  8. The Life Monk
  9. The Way of Consciousness
  10. Passports and Paintbrushes

My 5 questions are:

  1. What are you most passionate about?
  2. What was the best day of your life to date?
  3. If failure did not matter what would you do today?
  4. What is the one thing you would go back and do differently?
  5. What is your spirit animal?!

Thanks to Lorraine and to all of you who joined in and to the brilliant Onyx-Natasha who created this– I look forward to reading all your responses 🙂