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Gratitude is an Attitude

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I never realized how much I complained until I started paying attention and trying to consciously make another choice.  Now I am left with this realization:  I really have no reason to be complaining.  I mean literally no reason.  See I do believe there are reasons one could generally complain: unexpected loss, terminal or severe illness, homelessness, hunger, war…I think you get where I am going.  It is about scope and perspective.  When I looked through the scope at my perspective…that was an eye opener.  So let me count the ways I should be reminding myself to shut up; every time I complain about the injustice of receiving the wrong bagel with my order or that my boss did not thank me for picking up that extra work.

I woke up today relatively pain-free, as pain free as a 47 year old runner can expect to be.  I went to a job in an office, a good job that does not exploit me, no matter what my co-workers may think.  I have benefits, leave, I am protected from the elements and bonus, I get to use my brain and make a difference. I had lunch with a dear friend. I got to take the young lady I am mentoring to an event and introduce her around to colleagues.  I coached our running club with my husband after school, and I laughed and ran while being reminded of what it feels like to be a kid out having fun.  I got to come home to my warm house, with my beloved healthy cats waiting, looked at my newly neat pantry and fridge full of food and made a healthy dinner and shared it with my partner / best friend.  I am typing on my very own computer and my husband and I have more than enough money to meet our needs, though we are not rich,monetarily we both work for the government after all.  All of that is mine so I am rich in all areas that matter.  With a few daily differences the essential elements are the same: I have a partner in life, a home, food, passion, comfort, opportunities, and the love of my dear animals.  Why was I complaining?

I think some of it is who we surround ourselves with.  If a group of people or co-workers are throwing down about every little slight or disappointment in life it is a lot like being a teenager when your peers are all drinking beer.  “Here have one” becomes “don’t you think it is unfair…”  It is easy to get swept up in the momentum.  I have.  I used to a lot.  I still do but not as much. At least now when  I do I try to bring myself back to gratitude. My husband and I both wanted to focus on gratitude so now at dinner we start the conversation by listing three things we are grateful for on that day.  I can tell you after you start a conversation that way it stays more positive.  It is not that we never find ourselves less appreciative than we should be but it has changed our discussions.

I never realized how much of a choice it is to be grateful.  What you focus on you create.  So when we focus on the negative and what might be lacking that is what we feel around us.  Now that I am focusing more on all the good things in my life I feel like good things are everywhere.  I keep trying to stay present and mindful and bring myself back to gratitude.  I try thinking, if this were my last day would I want to have spent it obsessing about what was missing and every slight…or celebrating all that I have and demonstrating how much I love those closest to me.  I am not perfect and believe me as someone who is naturally sarcastic this effort is costing me a lot of good one liners.  I need to develop some snappy meditation, minimalism and mindfulness come backs.  Well a project for another day!

 

Author: fromtypeatotypeahh

I am a water resource manager in Atlanta Georgia. I am married with no two legged children but we have have 5 cats. I love reading, writing, running, meditation, travel and staying at home spending quiet time with my husband and cats. I am passionate about cooking and health. I love learning new things and growing. I am very interested in and beginning to explore minimalism to find real value in what matters.

2 thoughts on “Gratitude is an Attitude

  1. Loving the analogy between spending time with negative people with teenagers drinking beer – it’s very true! When I first started spending time with my negative coworkers, I realized I’d start becoming very negative as well. Now, I make a conscious effort to be grateful for what I have and have found I am much happier. I can’t control my coworkers, but I can control my own thoughts. Great post!

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